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Workplace Bullying and Your Employees: What Can You Do?

Workplace BullyingWorkplace bullying has been getting a lot more attention in the media lately after some high-profile bullying cases have come to light — but the issue is unfortunately not a new one. After all, the Workplace Bullying Institute has been around since the early 1990s for a reason, and many states have been in the process of trying to pass legislation against workplace bullying since 2003 (none yet with any success). But for as long as workplace bullying has been happening, it doesn’t appear to be stopping. A just-released CareerBuilder survey among 5,671 U.S. workers reveals that more than one in four (27 percent) workers have felt bullied in the workplace, with the majority neither confronting nor reporting the bully.

The most common bully? The boss.

According to survey results, 14 percent of workers felt bullied by their immediate supervisor, while 11 percent felt bullied by a co-worker.  Seven percent said the bully was not their boss but someone else higher up in the organization, while another 7 percent said the bully was their customer.

Bullying reports by gender and age

  • Comparing genders and age groups, the segments that were more likely than others to report feeling bullied were women, workers ages 55 or older (29 percent), and workers age 24 or younger (29 percent).
  • Women reported a higher incidence of being treated unfairly at the office.  One-third (34 percent) of women said they have felt bullied in the workplace, compared to 22 percent of men. Of course, this doesn’t mean fewer men are bullied, necessarily — just that fewer men report it. And, according to research by organizational behavior and leadership expert Denise Salin, women are more likely than men to self-label as a target of bullying.
  • Workers ages 35 to 44 were the least likely to report feeling bullied, with only one in four doing so.

Bullying can come in a variety of forms, and what one of us considers crossing the line might make another cringe or blush, and a third person accept as simply “part of the job.”  When asked to describe how they were bullied, workers pointed to the following examples:

  • My comments were dismissed or not acknowledged (43 percent).
  • I was falsely accused of mistakes I didn’t make (40 percent).
  • I was harshly criticized (38 percent).
  • I was forced into doing work that really wasn’t my job (38 percent).
  • Different standards and policies were used for me than other workers (37 percent).
  • I was given mean looks (31 percent).
  • Others gossiped about me (27 percent).
  • My boss yelled at me in front of other co-workers (24 percent).
  • Belittling comments were made about my work during meetings (23 percent).
  • Someone else stole credit for my work (21 percent).

Since bullying comes in so many forms, it’s often difficult to define bullying by one specific action. The Workplace Bullying Institute, however, defines workplace bullying as “repeated, health-harming mistreatment of one or more persons (the targets) by one or more perpetrators that takes one or more of the following forms:

  1. Verbal abuse.
  2. Offensive conduct/behaviors that are threatening, humiliating, or intimidating.
  3. Work interference, i.e. sabotage, that prevents work from being done.

Salin describes bullying in the workplace as a “form of negative interaction that can express itself in many ways, ranging from verbal aggression and excessive criticism or monitoring of work to social isolation or silent treatment.” It’s sometimes an accumulation of many minor acts, adding up to a pattern of maltreatment. The person on the receiving end of the bullying feels unable to defend him or herself successfully.

What are companies doing to combat this workplace bullying?

Twenty-eight percent of workers who were bullied brought the situation to a higher authority by reporting the bully to their Human Resources department. While 38 percent of these workers stated that measures were taken to investigate and resolve the situation, the majority of workers (62 percent) said no action was taken.

Of those who didn’t report the bully at all, one in five (21 percent) said it was because they feared the bullying would escalate. And with so few companies taking action on bullying complaints, reporting the incident may be an increasingly unattractive option to employees, because not only will they have to worry about the bullying getting worse, they will also have to fear making the culprit aware that his or her actions will not be disciplined by the company, essentially giving the person a green light to continue the bullying behavior.

Various sources from Salin’s research on workplace bullying also show that bullying seems to be prevalent in organizations that support, accept or allow such behavior, or where employees feel that they can “get away with it” or where it is accepted as part of a “tough” climate.” Even worse, new employees and managers can become socialized into treating bullying as a normal feature of working life.

The cost to your employees – and your business

Bullying is not only harmful for the employees experiencing it, but it also has a significant impact on the workplace environment as a whole. Bullying affects morale, motivation, work performance and productivity, and can also lead to higher absenteeism, health care costs and turnover — not to mention the psychological toll it takes on your employees. Some employers have realized the importance of taking steps to prevent bullying or make employees aware that they have a strict no-tolerance bullying policy, not only for the obvious reason of protecting their valued employees, but also because it’s good for business. Many employers, however, only seem to deal with the issue after it happens — if they deal with it at all.

Does your organization thrive on competition to the point of intimidation? Do you look the other way when an employee’s behavior seems to upset another employee? Or do you cultivate a culture of respect? While organizations can’t necessarily be blamed for bullying behavior, employees can certainly draw conclusions about acceptable or encouraged workplace behavior from the way they observe their organization treat its own employees and handle conflict.

By taking a soft stance on bullying, employees will view your workplace as tolerant of the practice, and will be less likely to come forward for help when they become a victim. What can you do to better protect your employees?

Six steps toward a bully-free workplace

In an article she wrote for the Scandinavian Journal of Management, Salin references many tips that various experts have found to be effective in helping to prevent or lessen the occurrence of workplace bullying.

Consider the following 6 steps:

  1. Foster a supportive culture, and encourage open communication with both peers and leaders.
  2. Introduce a specific, zero-tolerance anti-bullying policy to employees to increase general awareness of appropriate work behavior. The content of the document is very important; simply having one is not enough. It should cover the definition of what is regarded as bullying and what is not, as well as a statement of consequences of breaching your organization’s standards. It should also clarify who to report to, list specific contact persons and clearly explain the procedure for making and investigating informal and formal complaints.
  3. Incorporate staff from all levels of your organization to help develop your policy, and increase awareness and acceptance of it throughout the organization — having a written policy is not enough. Policies are not just for the potential victim of workplace bullying, but are also helpful for managers, to give them advice and guidelines about how to deal with bullying. In turn, having a policy may make managers more willing and competent to react appropriately to a situation.
  4. Include skills to identify and deal with bullying during management training; any action taken to increase leader competence in dealing with bullying is of utmost importance.
  5. Spread knowledge of both the definition of workplace bullying and your organization’s policy at all levels, so that situations that could escalate into bullying can be quickly identified (and hopefully dealt with before the level of intensity increases). Increasing awareness may also encourage more employees to feel empowered to combat bullying by refusing to take part or refusing to silently watch it happen.
  6. Increase the perceived cost to the perpetrator in order to deter potential bullies from taking action by making it clear that there will be serious consequences.

These are some steps your organization may choose to take to help curb bullying in the workplace — but I’d like to hear from all of you. What is your organization’s stance on workplace bullying, and what measures have you taken to prevent it? How have you dealt with bullying situations that have arisen?

 

Amy McDonnell

About Amy McDonnell

Originally hailing from Ohio, Amy is the creative services manager on the content services team and has been with both CareerBuilder and the city of Chicago for nearly a decade. She writes on a range of recruitment topics on The Hiring Site, striving to bring a dose of clarity and humor to sometimes complicated issues around employee attraction, engagement and retention. When she's not working, Amy spends as much time as possible reading, pretending to be a chef, writing short stories, eating Nutella out of the jar, waiting for CTA buses and trains, going to see her favorite bands live, and spending time with people who inspire and challenge her.
115 comments
quietone
quietone

My dept was just temporarily placed under a different supervisor and manager. For the last month almost every week I have pulled into the office. I was told that compliance reviewed my calls and one week I missed the word "from" when leaving a voicemail, the following week I missed the the words "thank you" in a voicemail and then I missed the words "hello" and "once again" when leaving a voicemail. The final time the said that the next time I would be demoted but also stated that my bonus will be taken because i just cant seem to grasp the concept of verbatim. I wrote in teh comment section of the write up "did not say "hello" or "once again" when leaving a voicemail.

BWells
BWells

I was asked to train a new hire and when I asked my boss "an ethical" question if I was training her for my position he said she was being trained for all positions as a "floater".  However that same week he gave me my 90 day evaluation demoted me then called new hire to do my job.  New hire turned job down because she did not want to work for an employer that treats the other employees that way.  Now that I am demoted they are asking me to follow another employee to help her with my route and then later in the day they will assign me my evening route or responsibility.  If they feel I wasn't capable of doing the route I was hired to do is it ethical for them to ask me to train or help the person I am being replaced with?

charbea
charbea

My boss has more or less punished me by giving me only 3 days a week for 3 weeks now. He said  it was so hard on him and his wife that I wasn't happy bouncy and lively during a period of almost a month when my husband was in intensive care and almost died.  I didn't have the option of taking time off as there is no one to take my place.  No I don't work with the public, its just the 3 of us on a farm.  He constantly belittles me, stating men are superior, and he is so much smarter but what took the cake was learning I had to be cheerful every day even though I was dying inside.  What can I do?  Yes I need the job and my husband isn't out of the woods yet, he is still in hospital and extremely ill.  When I do go into work on the days he has me scheduled, the work load is extreme cause it doesn't get done when I am not there

giovanjardine
giovanjardine

Need some help please

My boss was screaming shouting at me and pointing me when I replied by saying please don't point me he said to me what you going to do and then he went on and on and then he suspended me until a hearing.....This was not the first time he pointed or kicked me or pushing me I don't want to go and open a case against him because it will interfere with my hearing...What can I do please advise?????

morasan1187
morasan1187

i have a question i work as a cashier in a restaurant and the team leader that works in the night has something against me and she trys to give me a warning for any little thing she could fine. Shes basically trying to get me fired but her problem agaisnt me is becoming more personal and i talked to my manager but apparently shes not doing anything about it what can i do?

KarenLorentzson
KarenLorentzson

I work in a small but busy kitchen, my boss and her best friend gossip constantly and endless chatter, her friend does as little work as possible often sitting and reading the newspaper while we bust ass, she also sabatoges our work and gossips and lies what can I do?

aishhha
aishhha

does I need to be bothered by what the employees are saying against me?

thatshowyoudoit
thatshowyoudoit

My boss has a personal vendictive against me. She denies my training, she overly critizes my work then just the other day she yelled at me and when I yelled back at her, I get written up for insubordination. What can I do?

DR85
DR85

The place of employment I have the Supervisor asked that I come up with a program for six weeks. I did what was asked of me he and other supervisors told me it was a great plan and to follow through with it. I just found out that supervisor 1 told other employees that my plan was boring as hell and that my ideas were lame. He had also yelled at me in front of other coworkers

for something another coworker asked me to do stating "I'm the boss you don't go and listen to the others, you can only do as I ask" the proceeded to yell at the other co-worker for asking me to do something. The supervisor is out of control, he constantly talks trash about my co-workers and his partner supervisor 2. I had mentioned I would quit and file harrasment charges with the labor board with his boss if this is to happen again. HIs boss told me to just come straight to him before I quit, should I ?

Jehsicka
Jehsicka

i was suspended for 3 days with no resons besides "i found something on camera" i and today i am supposed to call him. what do i do? i also have a lot of evidence proving that he has been extremely sexist, and also showing favoritism toward one employee. i i am the assistant manager and these female coworkers look to me for help. what should i do, and will i still be credible by HR or  the ethics labor law if fired? our Manager makes every woman here cry. and especially picks on the oldest one- he "jokingly" makes fun of her in from of customers and other employees. the male employees see this and add in on the fun. he calls her over and tells her to go to a job, then when shes done he goes and tells her how she didn everything wrong and yells at her for doing it. he often Laughs in our face when he ask him a important question or explain to him why something happened... 

hidden pain
hidden pain

My Assistant Manager is my bully. She took her time getting real close to me pretending to be my friend and I shared a lot with her because I came to trust her not seeing what others saw and failed to mention until it was too late. I have a very painful past so it is very hard for me to open up to people. I suffer from post traumatic stress disorder due to past childhood abuse. I managed to open up a little and talk about it a little with her when I was going through a tough time a year ago, but little did I know she was just getting close to me to use everything she could find out about me against me.. She would appear in front of the store manager and others to have my best interests in mind, but in actuality it was all a show.. I think she saw my work drive and potential and saw me as a threat. She was sharing information about me to other employees and they would use it to spread rumors but then she would be that shoulder for me to cry on. All along she was the one starting it all. I would take my concerns to her and she would tell me she would take care of it, but after this last weekend Im beginning to believe she never addressed any of them. A male associate disrespected me and I went to her and she said she would address it. Later that evening I asked her if they had addressed it and she said yes, but the next day when I asked the other manager he knew nothing of the situation. The associates only seem to act this way towards me when she is on shift because they know they can get away with it. Its almost as if she encourages it.. Little does she know how these things can affect someone. Sometimes when I leave there at night wanting so badly to just drive it off the bridge.. Sad thing is everyday it seems like its getting easier and easier.. The little unnecessary comments and emotional, mental abuse is unbearable at times. I went to my store manager, I went to HR, I called Ethics.. I cant just afford to quit . I can't afford that gap in employment either, however I am applying for other places.. I just hope I can hold on a little longer. She is very good at what she does. She is a very fake person. It is unbelieveable how she can change. Im just amazed at how well she can fool them and be somebody so different when they are around and someone else when they are gone...I want to say for gods sake watch the cameras...

 

BSW
BSW

HELP! What can we do?!!!!!!!!!!!!!? One of the Team/Employees sent an email asking for help regarding a Bully Boss at the Lush store in Buford Mall of Georgia the email was sent directly to the Director of HR but no response at all. 6 months later an employee wrote the Boss a letter saying that the 15 employees all had quit because of the bad way she treats everyone and rather than quit like they did could they have a professional conversation- That same day the Manager decided to do a write up and demoted that employee!!! Retaliation obviously!!! SO rather than just rant about this person - I would like to ASK EVERYONE what did You do and is there something else we should do to have someone come address this Bully Boss??? The company was built on No cruelty to animals which means they are against Fur and yet she wears fur to work. She does make overs in the store but she puts her MAC makeup in Lush containers!!! How rong is that!?

adrianaade
adrianaade

I feel like I am the target at my work place. I work during my lunch hour and my work still does not get done completely. my boss keeps aggressively pressuring me that my work needs to get done. I do authorization processing for a rehab center. What can I do to stop this matter. my boss yelled at me during one of our meeting - blaming me for loosing patients and having the possibility of lowering wages and laying off staff. is this considered bulying because its humiliating- and what can i do. 

AnnWagner
AnnWagner

Bullying and sexual harassment has been going on since the 80s at least.  Unfortunately, reporting to HR can sometimes work against you.  HR is often there to protect the company, not the employee.  My suggestion- have a plan B and get a different job.

Ann "Denver job search coach"  http://www.annwagnerlive.com

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hrob7
hrob7

I was thrown into an upper management position running a facility suddenly during a hostile company takeoever for over three months. I had little resources, and no help.I was to be the assistant when the new company found a new director. I managed to do a good job, but the new owners wanted "new blood" in the facility.I was fired from the assistant position because i was not a "good fit", and I was offered aconsiderable lower paying position as a unit manager.I declined. I worked as a per diem employee. Several months later the new boss accused me of sabitaging the facility because I was "highly intelligent and didn't take the unit manager position." Since this incident the faciliity has not offered me any time in my per diem position. I am insulted because they hired an employee with no experience as the assistant who asks me for assistance with everything. Should I resign from my current position.

Flibbertigibbet
Flibbertigibbet

I am an employee with an electrical department. I am the only woman. I am older, and they are mostly young, but at same level of trade experience. Because I am married I don't go out clubbing, don't drink and cavort with them. I respect my husband and don't say bad things about him. Daily I put up with their ranting and raving about how their wives treat them badly, how they hate women telling them what to do. I am an apprentice and every word I say is taken as a judgement on their work but really it's just questions or noting things aloud about how one person works that way and another work another way and trying to navigate the way to the best work possible. The young guys make very sexist comments all the time and I know of several instances where they talk behind my back saying I'm a bitch. I follow company policy to the letter, do good work, work hard and don't take shit. My boss tells me I have an attitude problem since I'm obviously not getting along with the guys. I tell him I have difficulty dealing with people who are lazy, who endanger my safety, and who are making sexist judgements about me. I am told that I am too smart for my own good and that I should not speak. So here I am, relegated to not having an opinion or speaking, and seeing the double standard applied, seeing all the men get away with murder. It's despicable. What makes them think they should treat the women in their family with respect but makes them think they can treat women in their workplace like garbage?

Lisa
Lisa

I worked for GMAC in Atlanta GA where I was bullied extensively for two years.
I knew when I started at the company that the work environment was extremely toxic and bullying behaviors were actually modeled and encouraged by the senior management team. I tried to encourage change but one person against many proved to be a lost cause and I quickly gave up. The bullying began with my immediate manager and by the time I left, pretty much all employees were involved. And the sad part about it, I was a member of the management team. I went through the proper channels in elevating my concerns and problems and of course, HR was insensitive and nothing changed. Actually it became worse!

The toll that bullying takes on the victim can be extreme. I expierenced most of them. For example, loss of hair, extreme migraine headaches, anxiety, depression, and social withdrawl. I eventually decided to leave the company and am still working through the emotional scars that were left as a result of the bullying and harrassment. I was so glad to learn that many states are considering enacting legislation against bullying in the workplace, but it is years off. In the interim, companies continue to allow this type of behavior to go on and the lives of the victims continue to be negatively impacted. And in a tough economy where jobs are scarce-simply quitting a job without the prospect of a new job opens the door for a whole new set of problems.

I think we need to start putting these companies on blast that allow these types of behaviors. Perhaps drumming up some negative publicity for them and people will think twice about doing business with them or even working for them. Companies have become so money hungry that they have turned a blind eye to what is really important at the end of the day- the people that make the company successful in the first place- their employees.

WENDY
WENDY

I AM AN EMPLOEE AT A RETAIL STORE.IVE BEEN THERE 3.5 YEARS NOW .TODAY I SHOWED UP FOR WORK A MINUTE LATE AND MY MANAGER WAS STANDING OUTSIDE WAITING FOR ME .YELLS IN MY FACE YOUR LATE.ON TUESDAY WE GET OUR TRUCK I WAS TAKING CARE OF ITEMS OFF MY CART AND PUTTING THEM IN THE SHELVE MY MANAGER APPROACHES ME AND PICKS UP A BATH SPONGE OFF MY CART AND SAYS ARE YOU BUYING THIS.LAST WEEK I ASKED FOR CHANGE FOR MY CASHEIR DRAW.I COUNTED IT AND TOLD HER YOU GAVE ME 5.00 TOO MUCH SHE SAID NO I SAID YES ITS STILL IN MY HAND WOULD YOU LIKE TO RECOUNT IT SHE COMES OVE AND SNAGS THE 5.00 OUT OF MY HAND SHE THEN CALLS THE OFFICE SAYS ONE WORD TO THE MANAGER NO,I AM VERY UNCOMFORTABLE EVEN WANTING TO GO THERE EVERY DAY WHAT CAN I DO TO STOP THIS HARRASSMENT ON THE JOB

M.
M.

My coworker has accused me of being the bully. The coworker consistently does not follow through on jobs assigned to them, "forgets" or said they did not know what the assignment was, so in turn does not do them at all. They also say they didn't know something was going on that day when it's a routine (every year for example this event takes place. We have calendars, meetings, minutes from meetings, and newsletters that all discuss upcoming events. As the supervisor, it is my job to follow through on complaints or when an employee continuously does not do what is asked of them (or if they volunteer to do something, and do not do it). Is there a reason why things were not completed, what can we do to help them get their assignments done, would they like a "lighter" workload. If I ask one question as to why something was not completed (and I am extremely careful in how I address it)I am labeled as being aggressive and a bully. They are strong accusations that I do not wish to carry. What can I do to protect myself from a harassment suit? This person has now made up lies about me that makes me look as if I really am a bully, but I'm not. It's just the 2 of us, so it's their words against mine. The employee is very passive aggressive and does things to make our workplace fail. Because I am an outgoing personality, I am being labeled the bully. HELP!

Charla
Charla

I am being left note's from a co-worker I have been harrassed for 8 month's.Now she has put her 2 week's notice in and she is worse with the note's.I have been to both my bosses,which are the owners they say ignore her everytime,What can I do?

Marj Fratea
Marj Fratea

"Workplace violence is any act against an employee that creates a hostile work environment and negatively affects the employee either physically or psychologically. Bullying is a non-homicidal form of violence and a systematic campaign that jeopardizes your health, your career, your family and the job you once loved. And because it is violent, emotional and physical harm results". (www.workplacebullying.org)

To date I know of 9 employees within the company that have been subjected to some form of repeated harassing, malicious, cruel and humiliating attempts to undermine them by their management all within the same department. Having personally worked with 7 of these wonderful people I can attest to their character, professionalism, skill, loyalty and genuine care for the people in the community. Three weeks ago one of these employees was terminated after 38 years of excellent service to this institution. Prior to her being terminated she was emotionally tormented for months. She would be called into meetings and yelled at, lied about and threatened with termination. She was humiliated and tormented by words, intonations attacks on her character even though her work performance in the past was great. Another employee from the same department was terminated last week. I was terminated 2 1/2 years ago after 28 years of employment at this facility. Like everyone else my evaluation were great, coworkers enjoyed working with me and my patients appreciated all that I did for them. I received a large pay raise 5 months before the torment began because the management said they appreciated the years of dedication, professionalism and ability to be a team player.
What we all have in common is the fact that we were subjected to an infliction of emotional distress and psychological harassment over a period of time resulting in mental and physical distress. We were all subjected to behavior from the manager that was offensive and threatening. By his words, intonations and actions he created an environment that was hostile and offensive.

Sadly the administration including Human Resources were aware of the hostile work environment created by the manager and other leaders in the same department. We would go to the Vice President of the HR department and beg for the bullying to stop. We pleaded to know what we were doing wrong but vague answers were given, untruths were stated without examples and not one accusation was followed up with any form of investigation. The administration failed to take measures to prevent and abate the problem. We are just sent back to the bully for "conflict resolution". Stopping violence requires more than mere "conflict resolution".

Workplace violence is an occupational and safety health hazard. I would be interested in knowing the cost of the mental and physical ill health that this stress has caused on not only the abused employee but to all the others that witnessed the abuse and were too afraid for their jobs to say anything.

There are presently no laws that can safeguard such behavior. Hopefully with public awareness, a new administration and claims of abuse causing medical malpractice to soar due to bullying employers and patient injury we can say that bullying in the workplace is wrong financially and morally. It shouldn't hurt to go to work.

Thank you.

Marj Fratea
Marj Fratea

"Workplace violence is any act against an employee that creates a hostile work environment and negatively affects the employee either physically or psychologically. Bullying is a non-homicidal form of violence and a systematic campaign that jeopardizes your health, your career, your family and the job you once loved. And because it is violent, emotional and physical harm results". (www.workplacebullying.org)

To date I know of 9 employees within the company that have been subjected to some form of repeated harassing, malicious, cruel and humiliating attempts to undermine them by their management all within the same department. Having personally worked with 7 of these wonderful people I can attest to their character, professionalism, skill, loyalty and genuine care for the people in the community. Three weeks ago one of these employees was terminated after 38 years of excellent service to this institution. Prior to her being terminated she was emotionally tormented for months. She would be called into meetings and yelled at, lied about and threatened with termination. She was humiliated and tormented by words, intonations attacks on her character even though her work performance in the past was great. Another employee from the same department was terminated last week. I was terminated 2 1/2 years ago after 28 years of employment at this facility. Like everyone else my evaluation were great, coworkers enjoyed working with me and my patients appreciated all that I did for them. I received a large pay raise 5 months before the torment began because the management said they appreciated the years of dedication, professionalism and ability to be a team player.
What we all have in common is the fact that we were subjected to an infliction of emotional distress and psychological harassment over a period of time resulting in mental and physical distress. We were all subjected to behavior from the manager that was offensive and threatening. By his words, intonations and actions he created an environment that was hostile and offensive.

Sadly the administration including Human Resources were aware of the hostile work environment created by the manager and other leaders in the same department. We would go to the Vice President of the HR department and beg for the bullying to stop. We pleaded to know what we were doing wrong but vague answers were given, untruths were stated without examples and not one accusation was followed up with any form of investigation. The administration failed to take measures to prevent and abate the problem. We are just sent back to the bully for "conflict resolution". Stopping violence requires more than mere "conflict resolution".

Workplace violence is an occupational and safety health hazard. I would be interested in knowing the cost of the mental and physical ill health that this stress has caused on not only the abused employee but to all the others that witnessed the abuse and were too afraid for their jobs to say anything.

There are presently no laws that can safeguard such behavior. Hopefully with public awareness, a new administration and claims of abuse causing medical malpractice to soar due to bullying employers and patient injury we can say that bullying in the workplace is wrong financially and morally. It shouldn't hurt to go to work.

Thank you.

Chase
Chase

I can relate to workplace bullying. My boss constantly bullies me and after 10 years I couldn't take it anymore. A couple of weeks ago, I was out for two days for being sick with pneumonia. The entire company knew I have been very sick for three weeks but yet I still came into work. I finally went to the doctor and she I was in very bad shape, I have pneumonia. She said I need to be in bed for a week, I said I can't do that, my boss will not like that, so she said ok two days. So I came back to work, I gave my boss the doctor’s note and he said ”what’s this?” while being annoyed. I said it was
my doctor’s note and it clearly said “WALKING PNEUMONIA, HOME FOR TWO DAYS.” He just tossed it on his desk
like it was nothing. I went back to my desk and brought him the medication I am on as even further proof that
I am very sick. He personally held them in his hands and looked at them. I showed him Fluticasone nasal spray,
Symbicort inhaler, and Levaquin tablets. I also said I have Codien cough syrup at home. I told him I’m on heavy
medication so my head might be cloudy and might not work fast as I usually do. He just waived me off and said
“ok”. I just down at my desk and started working. I had 13 jobs on my desk and was going naturally on my business
working. I even made the mylars and proofs that I couldn’t do the days I was out, that very morning. That took about
an hour. No one complained about me not getting the work they needed. So about 2pm, I am on my third to last job
I had for the pile on my desk. I was waiting for a file from the Steel Dept. that I needed for that particular job. So I had to
wait for a bit so I decided to go online and check my email real quick. That last about 5-10 minutes then I go back to
working on that job. Then the boss send me an email me saying “slow down on the internet, you’re on it too much and
we have a lot of work to do.” I looked around and there was maybe 7 jobs on the table behind me that could be split
between 4 artists in the art department. He accused me of not doing work or being “slow” when I clearly said to him I
am sick and on medication that very morning. I got so fed up with being accused of not doing work, where in 10 years
all I do is work. When I’m done with the work I had, they give me even more to do, and I have never complained.
My blood pressure rose up and I have very high blood pressure and I am on medication for that too.
I wrote back saying that He should just be happy I came into work under my sick condition. I was constantly
coughing and hacking up mucus all day. I just got my things and left for the day at 2:30pm. I was frustrated, sick and confused. I just couldn't take the bullying anymore. So the next morning, I walk in about 9:30pm. I politely asked the boss if we can talk in his office private. His face was already red and
ready to blow up. We sat down and I calmly and politely asked to be laid off and I tried stating my case by saying
I am very sick, mentally and physically, I haven’t been happy working for a long time now...and he didn’t even let
me finish. He got up from his desk, and started yelling at me saying “What the fuck did you mean by that email?”
I said it’s exactly what it meant. I told you I have pneumonia, I should have stayed home for a week instead I came
back to work. I was working. Meanwhile I am still calm, and he is still screaming at me saying “Oh I made you sick!?,
is that it!?” Then I started defending myself and said you know what, yes you, your yelling and this place has stressed
me out to the point it has made me sick and I am on heavy medication. The the boss screams at me
“I’M NOT LAYING YOU OFF!! YOU’RE QUITTING, I’LL MAKE YOU QUIT.” I said I am not quitting, I am not quitter. Then the
boss said “GET THE FUCK OUT OF MY OFFICE ASSHOLE!” He was walking out, then I got up and asked “am I fired now?
Am I fired now?” He’s still yelling at me GET THE FUCK OUT OF HERE!” Again I asked, “am I fired?” He’s still yelling at me
in the front office, “YOU’RE SUCH AN ASSHOLE! YOU THINK YOU DO ALL THE WORK AROUND HERE RIGHT AND NO ONE
ELSE DOES! RIGHT?” That’s when I had it with the abuse and started defending myself. I said “ That’s right, I do tons of
work For you. After ten years in this place that’s how you treat me? Your best worker!??” Again HE’S SCREAMING AT THE
TOP OF HIS LUNGS “GET THE LUCK OUT OF HERE!!” All this time he was yelling at me like was trash, like garbage, a nobody,
So out shear frustration and defending myself I told him off, I said “ Go luck yourself you piece of hit.” Then he started to
Charge at me with his fist in the air and then stopped, shook his fist at me and said “yeah that’s my boy!
Get the luck out of here!” The whole front office heard it. The production manager, the steel manager, and the secretary
Saw and heard what went down. He disappeared into the art department and as I left, I saw the production manager
laughing about what happened. I have never been yelled and treated like that by anybody in my life. I felt so
humiliated, belittled, scared, confused and saddened. I walked in calm and politely and got treated like trash.

So I go back to after the weekend. I go back to work at my normal time at 8:30am and everyone is shocked that I came back to work. They all thought
that I quit. I told my co-workers I never said I quit nor I was told I was fired that’s why I came back. I found out
through another co-worker that the boss told him Friday “ You’re going have to find a new buddy to eat lunch with
because Frank is out of here!” I sat down at my desk and it was empty. As I was talking with my co-worker the next
desk over, I saw the Art Director was showing a woman around the art department and he was saying “this where we
work, we work with Mac computers, this is the server where the files are, here is the printer where we print out minis.”
Then the art director sees me at my desk and says “Oh, Hi Frank.” I said Hi Steve. He then quickly escorts the woman out.
I believe they were interviewing for my position. I went to the bathroom because I was still coughing mucus and
weezing from pneumonia. As I came back, there was a pile of work on my desk the production manager put. Naturally,
I started working. I went to the salesmen office to talk with one of them. As we talking, I see the boss is standing right
behind me breathing hard and just staring me down. When I was done with the salesman, the boss says “See me in my
office at 10am.” I sat back down at my desk to work. Literally 10 minutes later I’m asked into the boss’ office. This is
at 9:30am. I sat down and he asked me where’s my head at. I said my head’s fine, I am still sick with pneuomonia,
under heavy medication and haven’t slept well since Friday. He then tells me he’s upset with my attitude on Friday.
I said “My attitude? You’re the one who starts screaming at me like was trash, like I was a nobody. I stood up for myself
I have my dignity.” He kept pressing this issue that I abuse the internet. I have never abused the internet. All I do is
work. I pleaded my case to him. I told him go ask the salesmen if they don’t get their work, go ask the mounters if they
don’t get the work from me, go ask anyone in the art department, go call your clients if they don’t get the work from
me. He said “I don’t need to do that.” I said go ask the Quality Control manager if I made any mistakes on jobs. He said
“I don’t need to do that.” Then I asked him why are you accusing me then of not doing my job. I said “How is doing
10 out of 13 jobs in 5 hours not doing my work?” He said my work has slowed down. I told him do you know how
much medication I am on? I can’t work that fast as I normally do. I also told him the doctor said my blood pressure is
170/90. He said I’m close to having a heart attack or stroke and I need to slow down. I told my boss this and he kept
saying again “You’re abusing the internet.” I have told him in the past too I have high blood pressure and taking
medication for it. Now, I’m on four more drugs for my pneumonia He didn’t care to hear it. Then I said, everyone in the
Art Dept. is on the internet while they’re working. I said then you should tell each one of them to get off the internet and
do their jobs. I asked why are you singling me out? All I do is my work with no complaints from anyone. He kept saying
I’m wrong. I said all I do is my work for 10 years and not one complaint. I told him again, please go ask anyone in this place if I have an attitude problem, does anyone have an issue with me.
I am friendly with everyone. The boss said “I don’t need to do that.” Then I said why are you harassing me then?
Last thing I told him was, “In 34 years of my life, neither my father, my mother, family relatives, friends and former
bosses has ever yelled at me like I was trash, like I was garbage, a nobody. I didn’t deserve that.
If you want me here, you have to earn my respect back.” Then the boss said “I’m suspending you two weeks
without pay for insubordination. Then you when you come back you WILL RESPECT ME.” I was completely
calm through out this entire meeting.

I got my stuff from desk and came home. I have never been treated like that in my life. This is a person who will
yell at any body like they are nothing. He has respect for no one. Last year he almost got into a fist fight with
another employee. He verbally abused him too. The only reason why the fight didn’t happen because the
boss was held back. This boss let one employee, in the 10 years I have been there, let this employee write
5 book novels on company time. We, in the art department saw it all, we all complained, this man made so
many mistakes, cost the company a lot of money, and the boss let him slide. For him to accuse me of not working
and abusing the internet is false. I didn’t deserve to be treated like this after 10 years. I’ve done nothing wrong. I never hurt anyone in the
company or the company itself in any shape or form. I defended myself after being treated like was I garbage
by the boss Friday morning. After this, I’m not going back. It has become a hostile work environment for me
and I can’t perform under those conditions, especially while I’m still sick.

Chase
Chase

I can relate to workplace bullying. My boss constantly bullies me and after 10 years I couldn't take it anymore. A couple of weeks ago, I was out for two days for being sick with pneumonia. The entire company knew I have been very sick for three weeks but yet I still came into work. I finally went to the doctor and she I was in very bad shape, I have pneumonia. She said I need to be in bed for a week, I said I can't do that, my boss will not like that, so she said ok two days. So I came back to work, I gave my boss the doctor’s note and he said ”what’s this?” while being annoyed. I said it was
my doctor’s note and it clearly said “WALKING PNEUMONIA, HOME FOR TWO DAYS.” He just tossed it on his desk
like it was nothing. I went back to my desk and brought him the medication I am on as even further proof that
I am very sick. He personally held them in his hands and looked at them. I showed him Fluticasone nasal spray,
Symbicort inhaler, and Levaquin tablets. I also said I have Codien cough syrup at home. I told him I’m on heavy
medication so my head might be cloudy and might not work fast as I usually do. He just waived me off and said
“ok”. I just down at my desk and started working. I had 13 jobs on my desk and was going naturally on my business
working. I even made the mylars and proofs that I couldn’t do the days I was out, that very morning. That took about
an hour. No one complained about me not getting the work they needed. So about 2pm, I am on my third to last job
I had for the pile on my desk. I was waiting for a file from the Steel Dept. that I needed for that particular job. So I had to
wait for a bit so I decided to go online and check my email real quick. That last about 5-10 minutes then I go back to
working on that job. Then the boss send me an email me saying “slow down on the internet, you’re on it too much and
we have a lot of work to do.” I looked around and there was maybe 7 jobs on the table behind me that could be split
between 4 artists in the art department. He accused me of not doing work or being “slow” when I clearly said to him I
am sick and on medication that very morning. I got so fed up with being accused of not doing work, where in 10 years
all I do is work. When I’m done with the work I had, they give me even more to do, and I have never complained.
My blood pressure rose up and I have very high blood pressure and I am on medication for that too.
I wrote back saying that He should just be happy I came into work under my sick condition. I was constantly
coughing and hacking up mucus all day. I just got my things and left for the day at 2:30pm. I was frustrated, sick and confused. I just couldn't take the bullying anymore. So the next morning, I walk in about 9:30pm. I politely asked the boss if we can talk in his office private. His face was already red and
ready to blow up. We sat down and I calmly and politely asked to be laid off and I tried stating my case by saying
I am very sick, mentally and physically, I haven’t been happy working for a long time now...and he didn’t even let
me finish. He got up from his desk, and started yelling at me saying “What the fuck did you mean by that email?”
I said it’s exactly what it meant. I told you I have pneumonia, I should have stayed home for a week instead I came
back to work. I was working. Meanwhile I am still calm, and he is still screaming at me saying “Oh I made you sick!?,
is that it!?” Then I started defending myself and said you know what, yes you, your yelling and this place has stressed
me out to the point it has made me sick and I am on heavy medication. The the boss screams at me
“I’M NOT LAYING YOU OFF!! YOU’RE QUITTING, I’LL MAKE YOU QUIT.” I said I am not quitting, I am not quitter. Then the
boss said “GET THE FUCK OUT OF MY OFFICE ASSHOLE!” He was walking out, then I got up and asked “am I fired now?
Am I fired now?” He’s still yelling at me GET THE FUCK OUT OF HERE!” Again I asked, “am I fired?” He’s still yelling at me
in the front office, “YOU’RE SUCH AN ASSHOLE! YOU THINK YOU DO ALL THE WORK AROUND HERE RIGHT AND NO ONE
ELSE DOES! RIGHT?” That’s when I had it with the abuse and started defending myself. I said “ That’s right, I do tons of
work For you. After ten years in this place that’s how you treat me? Your best worker!??” Again HE’S SCREAMING AT THE
TOP OF HIS LUNGS “GET THE LUCK OUT OF HERE!!” All this time he was yelling at me like was trash, like garbage, a nobody,
So out shear frustration and defending myself I told him off, I said “ Go luck yourself you piece of hit.” Then he started to
Charge at me with his fist in the air and then stopped, shook his fist at me and said “yeah that’s my boy!
Get the luck out of here!” The whole front office heard it. The production manager, the steel manager, and the secretary
Saw and heard what went down. He disappeared into the art department and as I left, I saw the production manager
laughing about what happened. I have never been yelled and treated like that by anybody in my life. I felt so
humiliated, belittled, scared, confused and saddened. I walked in calm and politely and got treated like trash.

So I go back to after the weekend. I go back to work at my normal time at 8:30am and everyone is shocked that I came back to work. They all thought
that I quit. I told my co-workers I never said I quit nor I was told I was fired that’s why I came back. I found out
through another co-worker that the boss told him Friday “ You’re going have to find a new buddy to eat lunch with
because Frank is out of here!” I sat down at my desk and it was empty. As I was talking with my co-worker the next
desk over, I saw the Art Director was showing a woman around the art department and he was saying “this where we
work, we work with Mac computers, this is the server where the files are, here is the printer where we print out minis.”
Then the art director sees me at my desk and says “Oh, Hi Frank.” I said Hi Steve. He then quickly escorts the woman out.
I believe they were interviewing for my position. I went to the bathroom because I was still coughing mucus and
weezing from pneumonia. As I came back, there was a pile of work on my desk the production manager put. Naturally,
I started working. I went to the salesmen office to talk with one of them. As we talking, I see the boss is standing right
behind me breathing hard and just staring me down. When I was done with the salesman, the boss says “See me in my
office at 10am.” I sat back down at my desk to work. Literally 10 minutes later I’m asked into the boss’ office. This is
at 9:30am. I sat down and he asked me where’s my head at. I said my head’s fine, I am still sick with pneuomonia,
under heavy medication and haven’t slept well since Friday. He then tells me he’s upset with my attitude on Friday.
I said “My attitude? You’re the one who starts screaming at me like was trash, like I was a nobody. I stood up for myself
I have my dignity.” He kept pressing this issue that I abuse the internet. I have never abused the internet. All I do is
work. I pleaded my case to him. I told him go ask the salesmen if they don’t get their work, go ask the mounters if they
don’t get the work from me, go ask anyone in the art department, go call your clients if they don’t get the work from
me. He said “I don’t need to do that.” I said go ask the Quality Control manager if I made any mistakes on jobs. He said
“I don’t need to do that.” Then I asked him why are you accusing me then of not doing my job. I said “How is doing
10 out of 13 jobs in 5 hours not doing my work?” He said my work has slowed down. I told him do you know how
much medication I am on? I can’t work that fast as I normally do. I also told him the doctor said my blood pressure is
170/90. He said I’m close to having a heart attack or stroke and I need to slow down. I told my boss this and he kept
saying again “You’re abusing the internet.” I have told him in the past too I have high blood pressure and taking
medication for it. Now, I’m on four more drugs for my pneumonia He didn’t care to hear it. Then I said, everyone in the
Art Dept. is on the internet while they’re working. I said then you should tell each one of them to get off the internet and
do their jobs. I asked why are you singling me out? All I do is my work with no complaints from anyone. He kept saying
I’m wrong. I said all I do is my work for 10 years and not one complaint. I told him again, please go ask anyone in this place if I have an attitude problem, does anyone have an issue with me.
I am friendly with everyone. The boss said “I don’t need to do that.” Then I said why are you harassing me then?
Last thing I told him was, “In 34 years of my life, neither my father, my mother, family relatives, friends and former
bosses has ever yelled at me like I was trash, like I was garbage, a nobody. I didn’t deserve that.
If you want me here, you have to earn my respect back.” Then the boss said “I’m suspending you two weeks
without pay for insubordination. Then you when you come back you WILL RESPECT ME.” I was completely
calm through out this entire meeting.

I got my stuff from desk and came home. I have never been treated like that in my life. This is a person who will
yell at any body like they are nothing. He has respect for no one. Last year he almost got into a fist fight with
another employee. He verbally abused him too. The only reason why the fight didn’t happen because the
boss was held back. This boss let one employee, in the 10 years I have been there, let this employee write
5 book novels on company time. We, in the art department saw it all, we all complained, this man made so
many mistakes, cost the company a lot of money, and the boss let him slide. For him to accuse me of not working
and abusing the internet is false. I didn’t deserve to be treated like this after 10 years. I’ve done nothing wrong. I never hurt anyone in the
company or the company itself in any shape or form. I defended myself after being treated like was I garbage
by the boss Friday morning. After this, I’m not going back. It has become a hostile work environment for me
and I can’t perform under those conditions, especially while I’m still sick.

Lavelle Fisher
Lavelle Fisher

I would like to know how to deal with workplace bullying when the bully is another employee. I have been at this job 3wks and already their is a female bully. She has started arguments on the job called me a bitch i report this to the supervisor he did nothing and she admitted she called me a bitch i get doggy stares and she's very confrontational and aggressive she's 41 yrs old so am i and i feel helpless. She already was bullying the other lady now since me and the other lady get along she doesn't like that so she try to make me act out so i can get fired she's terrible but she puts a sweet face on for the supervisor and others.

Lavelle Fisher
Lavelle Fisher

I would like to know how to deal with workplace bullying when the bully is another employee. I have been at this job 3wks and already their is a female bully. She has started arguments on the job called me a bitch i report this to the supervisor he did nothing and she admitted she called me a bitch i get doggy stares and she's very confrontational and aggressive she's 41 yrs old so am i and i feel helpless. She already was bullying the other lady now since me and the other lady get along she doesn't like that so she try to make me act out so i can get fired she's terrible but she puts a sweet face on for the supervisor and others.

Sergio de la Cruz
Sergio de la Cruz

Then after the bullying experience you are a total wreck. You can't seem to stop denouncing what they have done to you. you post in every forum, file every complaint, go to your Union, speak to your priest, to firnds, to family, to neighbors. The pain is so great that you feel you can't carry it alone. You need others to know what this dispecable hatred can cause to you. The bully is disguised, hidden, coward. Most pervasive acts conducted behind doors where others can't witness it. Then you are left alone with all threats of possibly losing your job. You get demoted and in the process discriminated by enduring harrassment and derogatory comments to anything and everything that defines you as a person: your culture, your ethnicity, your age, your gender, anything the Bully can get away with...or thinks can get away with. Then there is the coward Justice System. We live in a world where noone wants to take responsibilities even it its a judgment call where a Judge could rightfully render on your favor supported by the law. The Judge does not want to deal with the consequences of his/ her decisions and orders. So it dismisses your case on vague, disputalbe grounds. Denies you the Jury Trial that you have so persistently pursued for years. The Legal System is a lie. It is meant to give Defendants the chance and time they need to figure out the way to get rid of you even if it takes months or years. But will get rid of you. As a victim of discrimination and denouncing it, you are an undesirable employee, someone who is targetted to get rid of. It is painful, but also true. In 2011 still the destruction of racism and discrimination exists tampant.

p. banks
p. banks

Women are worse than men when it comes to threatening nd bullyin.

p. banks
p. banks

It's sad when they want to see you homeless. From the workplace to your lively Hood involving Mason n Delta organization stopping u from survival n life. These people have tapped my conversations following me nd domain ...help please

Ellizabeth Jemes
Ellizabeth Jemes

I sow all comments it's really surprising me because i thought it's happen only nursing home, Is it every where? So how we could stop it?
Specially if you are from different country, having an accent worse and the boss mostly side towards the other person than the foreign employee its' painful. What is the solution? pleas share what you know .
Thank you.

Ellizabeth Jemes
Ellizabeth Jemes

I sow all comments it's really surprising me because i thought it's happen only nursing home, Is it every where? So how we could stop it?
Specially if you are from different country, having an accent worse and the boss mostly side towards the other person than the foreign employee its' painful. What is the solution? pleas share what you know .
Thank you.

Sergio de la Cruz
Sergio de la Cruz

Have you gotten accross from lawyers saying (yes lawyers) that a manager or supervisor that screams is not bullying. Or what about those who are straight disrespectful to subordinates, and others? What about those lawyers who say that managers can act the way they want even if it hurts others as long it does not violate civil rights. Meaning that a manager can call you all insults in the book as long it does not make direct reference to your skin color, or national origin, or age is is not illegal..Yeah right. Major legal reform must begin with lawyers. Take their licenses away. Make them go right back to school or simply do not allow them at all. These lawyers today are more concerned about covering each other's butts, and gaining more and more money at the expense of victims. And watch out those incresingly accepting bribes behind closed doors. Something must be done urgently. Tap phone conversations, follow them, question them incesaantly. Just like they do to us. Do not give them a chance. These lawyers have become so savy they know how to play the game. They can distroy you beyond repair and you don't even realize it. This country founded on civil rights protection and constitutional law can't take it no more. My case for instance, one highly meritous was defeated in Federal Court because of my lawyer's ineptness and devious behavior. He misrepresented his capabilities to me. I paid him big money. But ended up completing more than 90% of the work that he was to complete. Then still whines about money and how much I owe him. I already paid him big money. But drained me emotionally and mentally just his whyning about money. Soory mispelled> Anyways, Bar Association, you better start taking our complaints against lawyers more seriously. I know there is a click about You not penalyzing inept lawyers, making it harder for the aggrieved to prove their complaints. But I warn you, better start thinking about reform. Your layers who you endorse and certify are the culprit of the debacle in our legal system as a whole. Taking bribes, buddying and befriending with judges. Not a good scenario. People are getting fed up...We are now heading straight to the Supreme Court to demand our pleas and grievances be attended to properly and rightfully. Why depelting all our resources to these scum bags lawyers (sorry for cursing not my intention).. But as I said I am fed up. tired, numb, depressed about the pain of going thru discrimination, bully all in the workplace. No reason for going thru this just being the preferred scapegoat because of my protected conditions (Hispanic) and other protected clauses. People, if you endured abuse and racism at the hands of your employer, fight back!!! Do not let go. Never !!Even if the courts play you, believe in your convictions. If you felt it and experienced it, it HAPPENED !!! Do not let others tell you that you must have imagined it, or misunderstood it. I rest my case. Thank you Lord!

Sergio de la Cruz
Sergio de la Cruz

Have you gotten accross from lawyers saying (yes lawyers) that a manager or supervisor that screams is not bullying. Or what about those who are straight disrespectful to subordinates, and others? What about those lawyers who say that managers can act the way they want even if it hurts others as long it does not violate civil rights. Meaning that a manager can call you all insults in the book as long it does not make direct reference to your skin color, or national origin, or age is is not illegal..Yeah right. Major legal reform must begin with lawyers. Take their licenses away. Make them go right back to school or simply do not allow them at all. These lawyers today are more concerned about covering each other's butts, and gaining more and more money at the expense of victims. And watch out those incresingly accepting bribes behind closed doors. Something must be done urgently. Tap phone conversations, follow them, question them incesaantly. Just like they do to us. Do not give them a chance. These lawyers have become so savy they know how to play the game. They can distroy you beyond repair and you don't even realize it. This country founded on civil rights protection and constitutional law can't take it no more. My case for instance, one highly meritous was defeated in Federal Court because of my lawyer's ineptness and devious behavior. He misrepresented his capabilities to me. I paid him big money. But ended up completing more than 90% of the work that he was to complete. Then still whines about money and how much I owe him. I already paid him big money. But drained me emotionally and mentally just his whyning about money. Soory mispelled> Anyways, Bar Association, you better start taking our complaints against lawyers more seriously. I know there is a click about You not penalyzing inept lawyers, making it harder for the aggrieved to prove their complaints. But I warn you, better start thinking about reform. Your layers who you endorse and certify are the culprit of the debacle in our legal system as a whole. Taking bribes, buddying and befriending with judges. Not a good scenario. People are getting fed up...We are now heading straight to the Supreme Court to demand our pleas and grievances be attended to properly and rightfully. Why depelting all our resources to these scum bags lawyers (sorry for cursing not my intention).. But as I said I am fed up. tired, numb, depressed about the pain of going thru discrimination, bully all in the workplace. No reason for going thru this just being the preferred scapegoat because of my protected conditions (Hispanic) and other protected clauses. People, if you endured abuse and racism at the hands of your employer, fight back!!! Do not let go. Never !!Even if the courts play you, believe in your convictions. If you felt it and experienced it, it HAPPENED !!! Do not let others tell you that you must have imagined it, or misunderstood it. I rest my case. Thank you Lord!

Sergio de la Cruz
Sergio de la Cruz

The Workplace Bullying Institute defines workplace bullying as “repeated, health-harming mistreatment of one or more persons (the targets) by one or more perpetrators. The crucial and alarming meaning here is the health harming mistreatment. I have endured bullying on the job for years. Bully behavior raises to discrimination when the target does not crumble on the first several attempts
Perpetrators enlist others so willing to experience the amusement of bullying. Bully certaintly resides not only in the envious but mostly in the criminal minded. Those capable of bullying can and will commit fraud and other henious crimes. That is why I sought to report it to the courts out of fear mainly that I could be further hurt somewhere else. Not aluding to paranoia, but this is true. Bullies are determined to hurt you not just seeing you go away, but realy hurt you. I know it, I felt it. So deeply more so when the courts seem to participate in the scheme. Be strong and NEVER be defeated. The coward Bully harasses you because you are most admired in every aspect including your charisma. These soul building traits the Bully do not have. I am now demanding the return of all the bully took from me, my promotion, my wages, my reputation. Why can we just go to Human Resources with the evidence and defeat these coward Bullies at Children Services in NYC. Why do we have to go thru the useless court system? Answers please. Thank you.

KarenLorentzson
KarenLorentzson

@charbeafeel for u just ignore him, do ur job, and do what I did buy a plastic smile and wear it lol hope ur husband gets better and I understand most people expect us 2 tolerate their moods but when we are down its just like you say they gotta push...I just let it go smile and keep on although many times I go to bathroom and cry or pray people can be insensitive, I pray your husband gets better you are very brave!

KarenLorentzson
KarenLorentzson

@morasan1187 I would keep a small notebook pad with you and every time she says you don't do this or that -get it out and write it down, when she says what the bleep r you doing just say,   well I appreciate you wanting to train me to do the best job I can so I am making a note and then can reread later on break and reinforce your instructions. That usually stops this. I am for one had it up to the yin-yang with work place bullying and I get it all the time usually because I work harder, am happy and do not gossip!! I wear scrub tops, nice ones, and they have all these wonderful pockets! Will say a prayer for you I do this all day long!!! lol!

KarenLorentzson
KarenLorentzson

@aishhha you have the right to know from your employer if anything is so critical that could terminate your job, usually if you just ignore and do not react they get tired and move on to a new person to torture! Make a note of all that is said and you can ask your boss  to give you advice, bosses hear this all the time and most choose to like little with children let them work it out amongst each other. When I was a boss I ran my crew like military and would not tolerate anything that resembled this but bosses today are different. your goal at work is always to do the best for the employer and if you need to get training just ask!

KarenLorentzson
KarenLorentzson

@hidden pain just do your job keep any personal comments to yourself, try to put on the happy face, carry your paycheck stub around with you, and ask for evaluations and have it all on paper. workplace bullying is a problem most of us have to deal with and once you are branded with some label it is even harder but with the right attitude and procedure you will be able to go to work in confidence and wearing the armor necessary to make it in a warriors environment.! Stay strong and just remind everyone you are there to work as a team and put out good product for your employer, chatting and conversations non work related are expected to be done after hours or on break!

BSW
BSW

Excuse the typos. I meant how wrong is that. Oh also the the Team won against all the other stores in sales SO the employees are doing a great job * we won $800.00 dollars but she decided how to spend the money. She sent out an email saying, "we can pop bottles with this" She wanted to go to a "club" but only 2 people were of age. So she ended saying the money will go towards a company dinner she chose a steak & seafood place but the entire team except 1 person was Vegetarian and Vegan. 5 people didnt go and she never gave them their share of the winnings? As I type this I just found out that 2 more people just gave their 2 weeks notice. ugh! Honestly we want to work for Lush we love what it stands for and wanted a career with them but she is limiting our chances She gave everyone a 1 or a 2 (5 being the highest) during evaluations. Yet we did so good that we won her a trip to Cancun. Yet she always fabricates write ups and gives low scores in evaluations and never gives praise for anything. She told one girl you will be fired asap because this girl clocked in 1 minute late- yet she took off on her birthday early and next day she didnt even show up for work and left 1 employee alone at the store - then called in saying oh I am sick.

CindeeBraidee
CindeeBraidee

but what about those of use whom has happened to endlessly ?  Sometimes you also need to stay put and look out for your own agenda.   Alot of people are frustrated with the plan b of finding another job and having to start all over again.   It stresses out others and proves that no we can't work together.  

KEA
KEA

@M. Hello, I am in this same situation. I would like to hear how yours is going or how it went. Thank you, -K

CindeeBraidee
CindeeBraidee

this is crazy.  I had a Department Higher organization Bully and his goons always on my case.  It sucks because you can't go to HR and the laws aren't working for good people.   Ethics and Moral .... standards the common U.S. citizen has.   To me your health is your wealth.   Even though my mind is stressed from being underemployed write your congressman.   These stories need to be heard for those of us whom are way to held up to have to deal with the non civilities of others.  Sounds like gang like mentalities.  You have every right to work in a place to where you know you made the best of your work and the dollar.  

I hope you found a better job.  After my experience, learned to work for myself and hopefully find a part time job.   The United States wasn't built under sweat shops.   gosh.  

JP
JP

Can you please give me a call...would love to talk to you about it.

818 655 4402

CindeeBraidee
CindeeBraidee

hi Lavelle ... I don't think age has any thing to do with being a bully in the workplace or any other public place.  I'm 41 and have been stepped on, spit at , left for the dogs of Earth.   Age has NOTHING to do with it.

As a matter of fact the worse people whom are on my case or either power trip men of a high manager position or a 20 something gal pal who can't see past her own vanity on facebook.   And gets a friend to do her dirty work.

robe
robe

Hi Sergio de la Cruz, your story sounds simliar to what happend to me the lawers are the bigger thiefs in this situation where they can get bought out

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